WHEN TO TELL THE KIDS-PART THREE

WHEN TO TELL THE KIDS-PART THREE Five                                                                                                                                                                       So to begin with basically you want to have this “talk” about upcoming changes, when you will both be able to spend the rest of the day and night with them and preferable the next day or two to let it sink in that they are not losing either of you. Next it would be helpful to be a family unit for the day, i.e. no one but you and the kids. No matter how close they are with Nonie and Poppy...

WHEN TO TELL THE KIDS-PART TWO of Three

WHEN TO TELL THE KIDS-PART TWO of Three Four                                                                                                                                                                         What to say? Children, especially teenagers, all of us really just want to know the bottom line–how is this going to affect me? What is going to change for me? Am I going to lose anything? They, of course, have no awareness of the long-term effects of events on their life.  Small children who live in the present moment, may only comprehend they are moving. So think this through and be clear with yourselves on this, they will experience a loss....

WHEN TO TELL THE KIDS-PART ONE of Three

WHEN TO TELL THE KIDS-PART ONE of Three The defining moment of your children’s life and most likely your life will be when you tell them your marriage is over. In reality it’s not when you tell them, it’s when they comprehend what is going on and more precisely, how it is occurring. This, by the way, could be long before you tell them. I can’t write about that point in time. I can however share how you can usher in that moment of awareness in a positive way. One THEY MUST HEAR THIS FROM YOU DIRECTLY.  Your parents or a favorite aunt...